Updated: Mar 27, 2020
Throughout our lives we encounter a series of decisions we have to make, each of which shape who we are and our journey. These choices enable us to take control of our lives and remind us that we have the power to do so.
Choices present themselves to us everyday whether you notice them or not. The choices we make daily will determine the quality of our lives. It links to our mindset and character. If you feel as if you are in a cycle or stuck in a routine, you can make a change as you have the power of choice in your life.
When we are put into challenging situations our choices may become harder to make or may even feel impossible. Remember that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it. We cannot control what happens to us, but what we CAN control is how we respond. Instead of thinking of the decision as a tough choice, it can be seen instead as an opportunity to grow.
How we respond to choices can tell us a lot about ourselves. Do we shy away? Do we seek out someone else to make that decision for us? Do we feel as if we don’t deserve the better choice? Thinking that way, thinking that “I’m not good enough” is in itself a choice, making us feel as if we never had one to begin with. Not choosing is also a choice, but how can something change if we don’t make a change - it's all about action. Challenges teach us that we are stronger and more resilient than we think we are. When we are exposed to hardship we can face these challenges in two ways, either we see them as an obstacle to keep us from growing or an opportunity to overcome them and grow. If we choose to see the latter, we give ourselves the ability to choose who it is we want to be.
But how do we decide that we are worthy? Your mind can be a very convincing liar, telling you that you will never be good enough or that you’re incapable - this is called ‘Imposter Syndrome’. This is a psychological pattern and trap that convinces you that you are a fraud which can become exasperated by the toxic habit of comparison. If you tell yourself you aren’t good enough, you are planting that seed into your life and it will grow with repetition - meaning, what you speak over your life is what your life will become. This is also a choice. Why not choose to practice self-compassion, self-love and positive self-talk? Integrating this practice into your daily routine will influence your thoughts, and your thoughts ultimately become your reality. Decide to do more for yourself and this will not only have an effect on you, but also the people around you.
Who you surround yourself with also has an effect on the choices we make. Do we surround ourselves with negativity or positivity? Do the people around us bring us up or put us down? What about us? Do we choose to support those around us? Our external responses and actions from our choices can have a bigger impact than we realise. We shouldn’t shy away from the responsibility and ownership of our choices, and we should trust ourselves to make choices to better ourselves and our lives, and having the right people around you can fill you with the confidence to do so.
Not only do you change your life with your choices, but the lives of others too. By taking the opportunity to help others you can give them the opportunity to help themselves. If your choices are powerful enough to help others, then why can’t they be powerful enough to help you? When we decide to do more for ourselves, we at the same time decide that we are worthy. It is the choice of “I’m good enough”.
It is our choices that show what we truly are far more than our abilities. The person you are striving to become is possible if you believe this to be true.
Our lives are made up of a series of choices. You are capable of changing your life through the decisions you make. Build confidence and trust that you are able to make the right choices to better yourself and your life. Choice is an act of choosing between two or more possibilities, so why not choose the possibility that works out best for you?
A Poem by Ryan Tierney (Lighthouse Attendee)
"The Power You Have Inside You"
I promise once you start to make positive choices it won't be long before you see that breakthrough
What was meant to destroy us in the end can actually turn out to be the thing that makes you
I know sometimes certain things from our past can make life seem so hard
It does not have to define who we are and your inner strength can take you far
So hold on stay strong and make those decisions for a better today
Once you realise the power you have inside you there is nothing that can stand in your way